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Are you divorcing a narcissist?

On Behalf of | Jun 19, 2024 | Divorce

Dealing with a narcissistic spouse can make divorce even more challenging. Narcissists are known for their desire for control, their lack of empathy and their penchant for manipulation, which can significantly complicate the divorce process.

During the divorce process, understanding what to expect from your narcissistic spouse can help reduce some of the stress you may experience. Remember that there is no quick and simple way to negotiate with someone who has narcissistic traits. 

Tips for divorcing a narcissist

Divorcing a narcissist can be done without further damaging your well-being if you follow these tips:

  • Select a strong representative who will resist your spouse’s manipulation. You need someone who will go the extra mile for you. They should have experience dealing with narcissists who tend to be controlling and, at times, illogical.
  • Record everything. Save copies of important documents, emails and messages related to specific situations that affected your marriage. Having evidence and witnesses can be very helpful in proving your case.
  • Let your representative know if you are being emotionally or physically abused. This includes being harassed through text or email. Your representative may recommend obtaining a restraining order against your spouse.
  • Only communicate with your spouse via your representatives, especially about finances. Narcissists often use financial abuse to gain an advantage. Remember that your narcissistic spouse knows how to manipulate you. They will do whatever it takes to keep you off balance. Therefore, it’s best to limit communication with them.
  • Don’t take the bait when your spouse tries to goad you. Avoid venting frustration in ways that may be hurtful, particularly around children. Show restraint in your words and avoid making negative remarks about your spouse in front of their friends or family.

Divorcing a narcissist takes inner strength and fortitude, as well as outside support. Therefore, you should seek assistance when you are ready to move forward with the divorce.