Divorce is one of the most sensitive processes you will ever go through in life. Even the “slightest” or “harmless” decision can significantly change your experience. Thus, you should be cautious when getting a divorce.
Below are three things to avoid:
1. Badmouthing your soon-to-be ex-spouse
Talking negatively about your spouse to your children and others can disadvantage you. Firstly, badmouthing the other parent can change how your kids view them – your children may not want to spend time with them.
Further, if the other parent informs the court you are badmouthing them to the kids, it may view your actions as parental alienation. Consequently, it may make custody orders in favor of the other parent.
Besides, badmouthing your soon-to-be ex-spouse can complicate your divorce, as they may refuse to cooperate. You want to be on the same page with your spouse to achieve a seamless process.
2. Blaming your spouse for the divorce
Regardless of your spouse’s actions that may have led to the divorce, you should avoid blaming them. Acknowledge what they did and then accept your decision to dissolve the marriage. If you keep blaming your spouse, you may have a challenging time rebuilding your life.
3. Comparing your divorce with other people’s
While it’s crucial to learn more from people going through or who went through a divorce, you should not compare your divorce with theirs. Each divorce is unique.
When someone informs you about their divorce, take the lessons – you don’t have to do everything as they did. Just because your friend held onto the family home doesn’t mean you should do the same – it may not work for you. Understand your situation in-depth and trust your gut.
The above-discussed mistakes can make divorce more complicated than it should be. Seeking legal guidance earlier can protect you from these and more mistakes.